Getting Yourself Out Of A Rut
Over the past couple of weeks I’ve dealt with some stresses on a daily basis, and I struggled dealing with it at times because I’m not used to staying in negative scenarios. Luckily, I am really, really, not a negative person, I don’t surround myself with negative people because I am a firm believer that misery loves company, and if you surround yourself with negative people it’s bound to rub off on you.
And ain’t nobody got time for that.
I totally understand that I might not understand what you’re going through in your personal life. And if you’re really suffering with negative emotions I can’t stress enough that you need to talk to either a doctor or loved one to find out what you can do to help remedy how you’re feeling.
However, I find through my own experiences, and when dealing with others, that if you’re constantly focusing on the negatives then you’re never going to get better. To pull myself out of a bad mood, or a negative state of mind, the only thing I find that works is if I distract myself. And I do this by the following means:
Exercise. This is obviously an important part of my day to day life. I go to the gym/ exercise normally 5/6 days per week but I find that exercise is totally my release. Whether I’m taking it out on the road with running or attempting to destroy my abs on the gym floor, it’s a total distraction to everyday problems and get’s me out of my head, focusing on something else instead.
Cooking. I’m not necessarily an amazing cook, but I get an ‘A’ for effort. Cooking, or baking, is a great way to distract yourself from thinking about a stress. You have to concentrate on reading recipes, measurements and then, if baking, cake decorating is one of the best ways to get your head in a more positive place, especially if your decorating is successful. If it’s not, eating cake makes me happy, even if it’s just a sugar high.
Music. If I’m grumpy, I sit in my room and either put my headphones on or I put my Crosley Vinyl Player on full blast to remove myself from a situation. I either sing along to a loud track or cry my eyes out to a miserable one, but I feel better letting it all out and then I find it easier to move on from it.
Blogging. I love writing, whether it’s at work writing copy or writing blog posts, I always feel really good when I’ve produced content that I’m happy to share with you guys, my readers, or with journalists etc at work. It’s a great creative outlet and successful final drafts/ posts make me feel really good.
Removing myself. Sometimes the only thing to do when trying to shake off negativity is to remove yourself from the situation. It might be harsh, or unfair, but if a situation is negatively impacting your mental state then you need to do what is best for you, and, if you can, GET OUT. The more you submerge yourself in a negative situation the more likely you are to get stuck in it.
Speaking to someone. Whether it’s my mum, my boyfriend, my friends or venting to someone at work. Sometimes the easiest way to deal with negative issues is to talk it through. If you’re having issues with a friend, speak to another friend to get their opinion, at work, speak to someone you trust to see if it’s just you. My mum always has my back, so speaking to her when I’m blue always helps to make me feel better.
As mentioned above, these are things that work for me, they’re not a ‘one size fits all’ solution to negativity but it’s what I’ve found worked. Next time you’re feeling blue, or stressed, or angry, try a few different things to get yourself out of that mood. If they work, jot them down in a diary or somewhere easily visible so you can use it again in the future.
Thanks for reading,